- Latresa Rice
- Sep 30, 2024
- 3 min read
Sometimes the loss of a close loved one hits us really hard. In fact, the pain from the loss can be felt months or years after its occurrence. Just like the way you move to a tune that sounds good to you, sometimes triggers such as the deceased loved ones birthday, an activity that you enjoyed together, a certain scent of a particular cologne or perfume may cause you to move unexpectedly. It is in those moments that you need to develop an "I Choose Me" mindset. In the next few passages, I will discuss what this mindset looks like.
Have you ever stood in a line as a youth, patiently waiting for someone to choose you to join their team; however, they picked everyone else instead of you?
I've had that experience when I wanted to play baseball in elementary school on the play ground with my classmates. When they did not choose me until everyone else was chosen, I decided that no matter which team I played on, I chose me i.e. I would give the task 100% of my effort and we will win.
If you are going to navigate the dark gloomy painful waters of loss, you must embrace the "I choose me" mindset by giving 100% of your effort to healing. In 2020, my maternal grandmother died and a month later, my new husband died after only five months of marriage. I was devastated! My maternal grandmother was more like a mother to me because she raised my siblings and I after our mother died when I was only seven years old. The pain from the loss of her coupled with the loss of my new husband was unfathomable. They were two of my biggest supporters especially with regards to writing.
Although I'm a published author, I no longer had a desire to write. Their death felt like someone stabbed me in the heart and in the back repeatedly, causing me to feel weak while forcing me to choose myself daily. Efforts to choose myself daily involved looking for the light in the midst of this dark situation. In order to look for light, I would write Facebook post about a memory that I had with my deceased loved one and a lesson that I gained from my encounters with them. I also wrote my feelings in a letter. To write, is to exercise the authority that you have been given as royalty.
Writing is a powerful aspect of your healing journey. Get a journal and write your feelings about the deceased loved one including memories that you had with them, write about your feelings, any lessons learned from the deceased, etc. Choose yourself each day by doing something that brings you joy and write about how it in your journal. Once you are feeling stronger, it's time to help someone else by writing your story. You will already be halfway there due to all the other that you have been doing along your healing journal. The next step is to have your journal transcribed. Using this technique will allow you to free yourself while also giving you content for your book. Pain owes you are return for what you have gone through and people need the solutions that are in your story. It's time to write it.
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